How would you describe a confident woman? Is she self-assured? Does she trust her own judgments and abilities? Does she appreciate herself?
Confidence comes from inside ourselves as well as outside ourselves. Inner confidence can be learned, even for those of us whose life was previously a train wreck. Sometimes it can also depend on how we react to outside challenges. Confidence comes from stretching ourselves, and one way is by stepping out of our comfort zone. Taking a risk can be scary, fear can be very real.
So let me ask you a question. Do you like your status quo and playing it safe, or have you ever wanted to try something new, but were a little fearful of what would happen if you failed? Here’s what I have done in the past to be able to move forward with something I really wanted to try. I take a sheet of paper, make two columns, and then write down the pros and cons of what would happen if I attempted something I never did before.
Here’s an example. I love camping, so my husband and I bought a small camper. We always had great fun visiting state parks near us, and we even went camping and hiking in the Smoky Mountains. I also loved visiting my son and his family when he lived in Texas (I’m in Florida). There were times my husband’s work schedule didn’t permit him to travel to Texas with me, so I thought about taking the camper to Texas. After figuring out the pros and cons of pulling it long distance, and whether or not I could do that by myself, I decided to give it a try. Guess what! I ended up spending many wonderful times with the grandkids in a beautiful state park near their home, and the memories will live on forever in all our hearts. Did I mention I was in my 60’s when I began that journey?
Was it scary? Yes! Was it worth it? Absolutely! It was even worth having to pull into the higher priced gas stations because no one would let me in to the busy low-priced ones. It was such a boost to my confidence when I learned how to pull in and out of them without side-swiping something. Ha! And backing it into the RV sites? Yep, I learned to do that too! It took me quite a while to get the hang of which way to turn the steering wheel and many, MANY attempts of pulling forward, straightening the wheel, etc., etc., but I did it, heart pounding and all! (Hubby always managed to accomplish it in one fell swoop…)
What I’m trying to say is, life is short. Go for that thing you’ve always wanted to try. It can be something as simple as trying a new hair style, buying a new outfit, starting a new business venture, joining a gym, or applying a new makeup look. Who knows? You may be very pleasantly surprised that you aced it and felt great! And if you fail? That’s okay, too. History proves that some of our most accomplished inventors, presidents and other world-renown people failed their first few times, too.
What confidence-building thing are you going to do today?
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